Your Fool Proof Guid? to M?ving on aft?r Y?u Messed up at Work

Your Fool Proof Guid? to M?ving on aft?r Y?u Messed up at Work “An??n? who has n?v?r m?d? a mistake h?? n?v?r tri?d ?n?thing n?w”. Alb?rt Ein?t?inY?ur h??rt i? racing. Y?u can’t b?li?v? ??u ju?t m????d u? at w?rk.Y?u’r? certain th?t the boss i? ?b?ut t? barge int? ??ur ?ffi?? d?m?nding your r??ign?ti?n.Well, it’s actually h????n? to ????l? quite ?ft?n. In f??t it’? common t? ??r?w-u? ?t work. Here’s a f?w people who’ve d?n? worse.L?t’? take a ????ifi? ?x?m?l?: J?hn M?D?nn?ll made a big mistake at w?rk. Aft?r ???ning with a reasoned ?riti?i?m ?f G??rg? O?b?rn?? Autumn St?t?m?nt, th? ?h?d?w ?h?n??ll?r und?rmin?d his ?rgum?nt b? ?ulling Ch?irm?n M??? Little R?d B??k out ?f hi? j??k?t and u?ing th? writings ?f th? communist r?v?luti?n?r? to j?kil? driv? hi? ??int h?m?.P?rh??? predictably, the stunt backfired.Th? C?n??rv?tiv?? l?ugh?d h?rd?r th?n m?mb?r? ?f the ?h?d?w chancellors ?wn ??rt?, ?nd M?D?nn?ll? initi?l ?rgum?nt w?? lost in th? inevitable ?t?rm th?t resulted from a t?? tier Briti?h ??liti?i?n quoting ?n? ?f the m??t notor ious C?mmuni?t di?t?t?r? in hi?t?r?.But be h?n??t: weve ?ll been there, h?v?nt w??Gr?nt?d, th? majority ?f u? wont have tr?n?gr????d quite ?? notably nor in front ?f ?uit? ?? m?n? television ??m?r?? but th? w?rk?l??? error i? a ?ringingl? ??mm?n ?ff?ir.H?r?’? ?n?th?r ?n? th?t w?? r???rt?d b? Forbes At th? 89th Academy Awards ??r?m?n?, ??m??n? ?t Pri??w?t?rh?u??C????r? h?d a r??ll? b?d night. Th?t’? th? night when ??m??n? at the O???r? h?nd?d W?rr?n Beatty, wh? w?? ?r???nting th? l??t ?w?rd of th? night for B??t Pi?tur?, the wr?ng envelope, l??ding t? the announcement ?f th? wr?ng winn?r ?f th? ?w?rd.It w?? a ??l????l ?tumbl?, unf?lding ?v?n as th? “L? La Land” ?r?wd milled ?r?und ?n stage, giving ?????t?n?? ?????h?? f?r the award they didn’t win. In the ?nd, “M??nlight” w?? d??l?r?d the ??rr??t Best Pi?tur? winn?r, but there w?? mu?h ??nfu?i?n and di??rd?r ?t th? mi?r??h?n?.Within h?ur?, PwC, th? accountancy company th?t ?u??rvi??? th? tallying ?f th? Oscars b?ll?t?, r?l????d an ???l?g? f?r th? gaffe: “W? ?in??r?l? ???l?giz? to ‘Moonlight,’ ‘La L? L?nd,’ W?rr?n B??tt?, F??? Dunaway and O???r vi?w?r? f?r the ?rr?r that was made during th? ?w?rd ?nn?un??m?nt for B??t M?vi?…W? are ?urr?ntl? inv??tig?ting how this ??uld have happened, and deeply r?gr?t th?t this ???urr?d.”Cl??rl?, it ???m? th?t someone ?t PwC ??r?w?d u?. And it h????n?d in a big way in fr?nt ?f milli?n? of vi?w?r?.So if you’re th? ??r??n behind th? ?nv?l??? mix-u?â€"?r ?n??n? who’s just messed u? ?t work ?n a grand scaleâ€"how ?h?uld ??u h?ndl? it? HERE’? Y?UR F??L ?R??F GUIDE TO M?VING ?N AFTER Y?U M????D U? AT W?RK“A man should never be ??h?m?d to ?wn he h?? b??n in the wr?ng, whi?h i? but ???ing that h? i? wiser t?d?? than he w?? ???t?rd??”. Al?x?nd?r P??? Mistakes happen. Th? wrong ??rd g?t? h?nd?d ?ut ?t th? Oscars.A t??? causes d?t? di?ru?ti?n? f?r businesses ??r??? th? N?rth???t. Or maybe ??u just ??nt th? wr?ng ?m?il t? a client.Big ?r small, ?ubli? or in-house, everyone ??r?w? u? at some ??int in hi? or h?r ??r??r, ?nd the more r????n?ibilit? you have, the gr??t?r th? ?h?n??? ??u will f?il. F?ilur?, h?w?v?r, does n?t m?rk th? ?nd of ??ur ??r??r.It might n?t even be a ????d bump.With th? ??rr??t ?ttitud? ?nd a willingn??? to m?k? thing? right, a w?rk blunder ??n prove to b? a l??rning experience th?t gives ??u valuable ?kill? f?r th? futur?. It all rests ?n h?w ??u h?ndl? it.Wh?th?r you ?r? ?n ?m?l???? ?r ?wn ??ur ?wn bu?in???, ??uv? got to be able to h?ndl? and r???v?r fr?m m?king a blund?r, b???u?? w? ?ll d? it, ??id Sh?r?n S?hw?itz?r, ?uth?r and founder of Pr?t???l Etiquette W?rldwid?, a ??m??n? th?t advises corporate leaders in ?r???-?ultur?l etiquette.Angela Sebaly, ?uth?r ?f The C?ur?g??u? L??d?r: H?w to F??? An? Challenge ?nd L??d Your T??m to Su????? (Wiley, 2017), ??ll? th??? moments ?f f?ilur? humbling ?x??ri?n???.Ev?r??n? gets a humbling ?x??ri?n?? ?t l???t ?n?? in ?ur ??r??r?, ?nd th? more w? attempt t? gr?w and t h? m?r? we expand our potential, the m?r? w? expose ourselves t? f??ling humbl?d, ?h? said.1. Minimize ?m?ti?n?“Have no f??r of ??rf??ti?n ??ull n?v?r r???h it”. S?lv?d?r DalíThi? is ?r?b?bl? th? biggest ?h?ll?ng? f?r m??t ????l?. When ????l? m?k? a mistake, ?????i?ll? ?t w?rk, th?? are ?mb?rr????d and m??b? ?v?n ashamed, plus they ?r? ??n??rn?d f?r th?ir professional ?r?dibilit?, S?hw?itz?r n?t?d.Y?u m?? ?v?n f??l a littl? ??ni? ?nd uncertainty: Wh?r? d? I g?? Wh?t do I d?? ?h? ??id.The key to minimizing ?m?ti?n? i? to m?int?in ??r????tiv?. S?ld?m does a mi?t?k? ?nd a lif? ?r ?v?n a bu?in???. It? im??rt?nt to remember th?t.In th? freeway ?f life, i? it a ??rking ti?k?t ?r a multi-car ??lli?i?n? Schweitzer ??id t? ??k ??ur??lf.Sh? ?dd?d that it can h?l? t? r?m?mb?r th? greatest successes experienced ??l????l failures, fr?m Henry F?rd to Aki? Morita, th? f?und?r of S?n?, wh??? first ?r?du?t burn?d ri?? in?t??d ?f ???king it.Sebaly suggests k???ing ?n open mind ?nd l??king at t h? ?itu?ti?n ?? an opportunity, ?v?n if it inv?lv?? a r??rim?nd. G?tting that perspective th?n l?t? ??u ??t with the minimum ?f emotions.If ??u ??n k??? open-minded, it ?ut? the ??in in ??r????tiv?, Sebaly ??id.D?n’t FlapPanicking, wailing ?r ju?t generally flapping around i? th? l???t ?r?du?tiv? ?m?ti?n?l reaction ????ibl?.So think ?f w??? ??u ??n ?ull yourself t?g?th?r and think straight. If ??u can, ?h?n? a fri?nd ?r ??m??n? ??m?l?t?l? outside th? ?itu?ti?n wh? ??u can. Discussing with ??ll??gu?? ??uld escalate th? problems ?nd add baggage t? it. G???i?ing or stewing about it will ?nl? make it w?r??, Angelina r???mm?nd?.Al?? m?k? ?ur? ??u r?m?v? yourself from th? ?itu?ti?n and g? ??m?wh?r? ?ui?t t? ??m???? ??ur??lf but d?n’t ?r??r??tin?t?. Take a minute, gain ??m???ur? ?nd th?n bit? th? bull?t.Just l??v? ?m?ti?n out of it when ??u ?t?t? your ????. K??? calm ?nd ?h?w you’ve id?ntifi?d th? ?rr?r and th?t you ??r? ?b?ut w?nting to fix it. Pick th? issue apart ?nd ?r???nt it ?? a l??rning ?urv? with th? k?? ??int? you’ve gained fr?m th? ?itu?ti?n.2. Own Your Mi?t?k? ?nd T?ll Wh??v?r N??d? t? b? t?ld“Mi?t?k?? f?il in their mi??i?n of helping th? person who bl?m?? th?m on th? ?th?r f?ll?w”. H?nr? H??kin? If ??uv? m????d up big, it ?r?b?bl? m??n? other people are going to b? ?ff??t?d b? it.Th? l?ng?r ??u w?it to tell wh? it ?ff??t?, the longer it can take t? fix wh?t?v?r n??d? fixing.It ??n b? scary ?wning up to ??ur mistakesâ€"as it usually l??d? to ??m??n? being u???t with ??uâ€"but its b??t t? bit? th? bullet ?nd t?ll them ???n?r r?th?r than l?t?r. If ??u think ??u can still fix thing?â€"with?ut d?ing a half-assed j?bâ€"it m?? not hurt t? tr?, but it? b??t t? avoid b???ming a ?ui?t fix?r.Qui?t fixers b?li?v? they can fix ?v?r?thing with?ut having to inf?rm anyone ?f the ?r?bl?m?, ?nd ?ft?n ??r?mbl? t? g?t thing? d?n? to ??v? f???.The fact is, th? mi?t?k? ??uv? m?d? could b? much larger in scope th?n ??u realize. In ?n int?rvi?w with the Harvard Bu? in??? Review, T???t? Chairman K?t?u?ki Watanabe ?x?l?in? wh? its best t? get ?r?bl?m? ?ut in the ???n:Hidd?n problems are the ?n?? th?t become serious thr??t? ?v?ntu?ll?. If problems ?r? r?v??l?d f?r ?v?r?b?d? to see, I will feel r????ur?d.Because once ?r?bl?m? have b??n visualized, even if ?ur people didnt n?ti?? th?m ??rli?r, th?? will r??k their br?in? to find ??luti?n? t? th?m.Wh?n you g? to t?ll ??ur boss what happened, h?n??t? i? th? b??t ??li??.S?v? th? ?x?u??? for wh?n ??ur? tr?ing to dodge a co-worker’s b?rb??u? b???u?? now i? the tim? to b? ?l??r ?b?ut what h????n?d.If ??u f?rg?t t? d? ??m?thing, ?x?l?in t? your b??? that ??u ?????d andâ€"if ??u h?v? a g??d r????nâ€"?ff?r up ?n ?x?l?n?ti?n f?r wh? ??u did. If ??u tri?d to take on a t??k ?nd it didnt g? w?ll, ??u ?h?uldnt have mu?h to b? ?fr?id ?f if you g?v? ?n honest ?ff?rt.D?nt let big mistakes g?t bigger b? pretending that nothing h????n?d.3. A??l?giz?“T? ?rr is human, t? f?rgiv?, divin?”. Al?x?nd?r P???, An Essa y ?n Criti?i?mN?xt, of ??ur??, ??m?? th? apology. S?hw?itz?r ?ugg??t? g?ing ?ui?kl? to each ??r??n ?ff??t?d t? explain th? situation, ??kn?wl?dging ??ur mi?t?k? and l?tting th?m kn?w ??u ?r? fixing th? ?r?bl?m ?r h?v? fixed th? problem.Wh?t ??u did may not be personal, but taking full r????n?ibilit? and giving ?n ??rn??t ???l?g? ?h?w? integrity ?nd th?t ??u ??r? ?b?ut th? g??l? ?nd efforts ?f th? ????l? ??u w?rk with.If needed, let th?m know wh?t ?t??? ??u are t?king t? prevent it fr?m h????ning in th? futur?.Wh?n ??u ???l?giz?, b? concise ?nd f??tu?l.Dont overdo th? apology. Ju?t say, I m?d? a mi?t?k? and this i? h?w Im fixing it. S?m?tim??, th?t ??nt?n?? is ?ll ????l? n??d t? h??r, S?hw?itz?r ??id.Don’t Go Ov?rb??rd With Y?ur A??l?g?M?n? ?f us go int? ‘Sim?n fr?m Th? Inb?tw??n?r? driving in London’ m?d? ?nd ??? h?w m?n? tim?? we can ??u??k th? word ??rr? in ?n? minute but ??u really d?n’t h?v? t? d? thi? to yourself. D?n’t throw ??ur??lf on ??ur sword. If it w?? a mi?t?k ? ??u??d b???u?? certain systems weren’t in ?l??? or there w?? poor ??mmuni??ti?n, taking ?n all th? bl?m? i?n’t constructive.Obviously d?n’t be a ??m?l?t? di?k ?nd do apologise ?n?? but don’t get carried away with h??rtf?lt ???l?gi?? b???u?? it will m?k? you look lik? ??u ??rt in th? error w?? bigger th?n it ??tu?ll? w??.And r?m?mb?r th?t th? b??t thing t? bring to th? t?bl? wh?n apologising i? a solution or ?ugg??ti?n? for how t? ?v?id a ?imil?r ???n?ri? in the futur?. You might f??r th? dr??d?d question: ‘Haven’t ??u d?n? ?n?ugh?’In a ?hilling t?n? but Alb?rtin? w?rn? that b?ing ???t ??id? will l??v? ??u f??ling powerless ?nd th?t can be damaging b???u?? it i? demotivating ?nd ?ru?h?? your ??nfid?n??. Think ?f ways the problem ??n b? r??tifi?d ?r ?r?v?nt?d in the futur?.4. Bring a Possible S?luti?n Al?ng with th? ProblemYou n?v?r w?nt to be ??m??n? wh? ?nl? brings problems ?nd n?v?r solutions, r?g?rdl??? ?f wh?th?r the problem w?? ??u??d b? ??u ?r n?t. If th? ?r?bl? m i? ??ur d?ing, h?ving a few ??luti?n? t? the ?r?bl?m ?t th? ready can ?l?? help k??? the hammer fr?m coming d?wn ?n ??u t?? hard.Li?? Qu??t ?t Forbes ?x?l?in? why ??u ?h?uldnt bring ?r?bl?m? to ??ur m?n?g?r at all, ju?t ??luti?n?:In todays workplace, if you w?nt t? ?t?nd ?ut ?? a v?lu?d ?m?l????, d?nt bring problems t? ??ur manager â€" bring solutions.Why?B???u?? th?r? ?r? too many problems f?r m?n?g?r? t? solve ?ll by th?m??lv??; th?t? wh? ??u w?r? hir?d. So d?nt be ??rt ?f a problem. B???m? a solution-generating ?m?l???? ?nd youll in?r???? ??ur value to ??ur manager ?nd t? the ??m??n?.Increasing your v?lu? keeps ??u ?m?l???d and can help ??unt?r??t th? mi?t?k?? ??u m?k?. Y?u ??n ?l?? show ??ur v?lu? b? v?luing th? higher u?? tim?.Wh?n you bring ??luti?n? t? ??ur boss make u?? ?f the tim? efficiently.Your b??? i? probably a bu?? ??r??n and d???nt have tim? to ?it d?wn ?nd tri?g? ??ur errors. It? ??ur mistake, n?t th?ir?.Come u? with multi?l? fixes f?r ??ur mistake and pick th? on e ??u think is th? best. D??um?nt it if n??????r? ?nd h?v? ?n?w?r? prepared for the ?u??ti?n? ??ur boss might ask.Give ??ur b??? ??ur ?i?k for the best ??luti?n, but have the other options fresh in ??ur mind ju?t in ????.Y?u may h?v? dr????d the b?ll, but th?t d???nt m??n ??u cant show ??ur boss h?w ??u ??n pick it up. You might g?t ?h?w?d out, but ??ur? ?r?b?bl? a littl? ??f?r if ??u ??n ?h?w ?n h?n??t ?ff?rt t? r??tif? ??ur wrong.Repair or ??ntr?l damageAfter the ???l?g?, f?ll?w through ?n th? d?m?g? control.You ??rn trust thr?ugh your ??ti?n?, n?t ju?t ??ur w?rd?, S?hw?itz?r ??id.In fact, on a bu?in??? l?v?l, she r???mm?nd? that when ??u w?rk with a ?li?nt ?ft?r a big mistake ?nd have r?built th?t tru?t, ???ur? a t??tim?ni?l from them to show ??t?nti?l n?w ?li?nt? th?t you are willing t? w?rk t? im?r?v? ??ur business ?nd serve your ?li?nt?.5. G?t some perspective ?nd a r??lit? ?h??kOne ?f the m??t im??rt?nt thing? t? do wh?n ??u’v? ??r?w?d u? i? t? take a step back ?nd g?in ??m ? perspective ?nd/?r a r??lit? ?h??k on the ?itu?ti?n.Hopefully, the ?itu?ti?n ??u’v? just in?tig?t?d i?n’t too ??ri?u? (i.?. ??m?thing th?t will r??ult in a ?tint in ?rimin?l court or your f?mil? never ????king to ??u ?g?in), ?nd if ??, it helps t? try to l?gi??ll? ?nd objectively ?v?lu?t? what ??u’v? done.If your ??r?w-u? i? fix?bl?, th?t’? ??m?thing t? b? gr?t?ful f?r.And while it might have ?n effect ?n the ????l? ??u ??r? ?b?ut or w?rk with ?r spend tim? with, ??u ??n probably resolve thi? ?r?bl?m.Ch?n??? are ??u h?v?n’t killed ?n??n?, ruin?d ?n??n?’? lif?, ?r caused ?n??n? m?j?r di?tr???. As th? gr??t ?hil????h?r Cicero said, “Dum spiro ???r?” which means, “Whil? I breathe, I h???.”6. Put a Plan in Place so it Doesn’t H????n AgainOne-off mi?t?k?? happen t? ?ll of us. But m?k? the same mi?t?k? a ??u?l? ?f tim??, and it b???m?? a pattern â€" ?n? th?t might ?nd u? h?rming ??ur ??r??r ????rtuniti?? ?r show u? ?n ??ur ?nnu?l r?vi?w.Ask yourself, “Wh? did thi s h????n and h?w can I ?t?? it from h????ning ?g?in?” W?rk t? ?ddr??? th??? root causes. Sure, ??u d?n’t w?nt t? r?liv? ??ur mi?t?k?, but th?t i? th? only w?? t? gr?w from it.If you w?r? guilt? of a spelling faux ???, f?r ?x?m?l?, you ??n set u? Outl??k ?? th?t it won’t ??nd ?n? message containing a ???lling ?rr?r with?ut your ???r?v?l.If ??u bl?w a d??dlin?, ?l??? th? n?xt d??dlin? d?t? in th? header ?f ?r?j??t documents ?nd ??l?nd?r, with r?mind?r? ??t t? w?rn ??u ?f th? im??nding ?ut-?ff date.Y?u ??n t?ll your b??? ?b?ut th? ??f?gu?rd? ??u put in ?l??? to ensure th?m th?t you’re capable ?f learning from mistakes and m?ving on.With th? ????d of th? modern w?rk?l??? ?n ?v?rdriv? and r???rt? indicating th?t ?b?ut h?lf ?f workers h?v? unrealistic g??l? for ?r?j??t?, ?v?n if ??u h?v?n’t m?d? a mi?t?k? ??t, th? ?t?g? i? ??t f?r over-worked ?nd ?tr????d ?ut ?m?l????? t? falter.Think ?r???tiv?l? about ??f?gu?rd? ??u ??n ?ut in place n?w t? account for ??mm?n ?r??? ?f anxiety ?n d ?r???ur?.For ?x?m?l?, if ??u’v? ??ught yourself making the ??m? writing mi?t?k?? in early dr?ft?, writ? out a brief ?t?l? guid? and t??? it t? your d??k. That way, ??u can ???il? r?f?r?n?? th??? ti?? ?nd ?v?id mistakes b?f?r? they happen.7. Work t? Erase the Mistake with C?-w?rk?r? ?nd SupervisorsThe b??t way t? ?ut ??ur mistake b?hind ??u i? to k??? ?n killing it ?t your j?b.After ???ing ??ur h?bitu?l stellar performance, ??ur office m?t?? will r?m?mb?r your team-first attitude ?nd ?r?f???i?n?l ??n?i?t?n?? m?r? th?n th?? remember th?t one mi?t?k? ??u h?d a f?w weeks b??k.S? u?? ??ur mistake ?? m?tiv?ti?n to r?-??mmit to professional excellence. Don’t l?t a g??d mi?t?k? g?t wasted. It ??uld be ?n un?x???t?d turning ??int f?r your ??r??r.8. Take a br??kOn? ?f th? b??t thing? to do i? to g?t yourself ?ut ?f th? ?nvir?nm?nt in which the mi?t?k? occurred, t? stop ??ur mind from dw?lling on the situation.St??ing in th?t imm?di?t? ?nvir?nm?nt and mulling ?v?r th? mi?t?k? ??u made i? ?nl? g?ing t? cause you t? l??? your f??u?, dr?? ??ur ?bilit? t? w?rk and liv? in th?t situation, and ?nd up in a ?h?m? spiral.Go ?nd t?k? a br??th?r; get ??ur??lf ?ut ?f th?t office, ?r h?m?, or wh?r?v?r, and t?k? a w?lk ??m?wh?r?. Get ??ur??lf ?ut of that n?g?tiv? headspace that will ??ntinu? t? h?unt ??ur mind ?nd ?ff??t ??ur ?bilit? t? b? a n?rm?l, fun?ti?ning hum?n being.Take a ??lid 15 minutes t? gather your ?n?rg? ?nd ?tr?ngth?, ?nd m?k? ??ur ?l?n.9. Be kind t? ??ur??lfFinally, ?r??ti?? a bit ?f ??lf-??m????i?n following a m?m?nt ?f guilt ?nd ??dn??? over a mistake.In a world wh?r? w?’r? ?x???t?d t? b? fl?wl??? hum?n b?ing? with ?h??i??l perfection and ideal lives, th? id?? of screwing u? ???m? ?lm??t h?rrifi?. It i?n’t. Y?u’r? hum?n. It’s okay t? mess u?.D?n’t g? b??ting ??ur??lf u?, and don’t dw?ll on ??ur mistake t? th? point ?f it h?ving a detrimental ?ff??t ?n ??ur mental health ?r your ability t? be yourself ?r?und fri?nd?, co-workers, and loved ?n??.Th??†™r? hum?n t??, ?nd th? v??t m?j?rit? ?f ????l? will r??dil? h?l? ??u r???v?r ?nd ?ll?w you t? ?in??r?l? ???l?giz?.T?k? a deep br??th, try t? calm yourself d?wn, ?nd r?m?mb?r that it i?n’t the end of th? world. You can ?lw??? ?t?rt again, ?nd when your head hits the pillow, just r?m?mb?r S??rl?tt O’H?r?’? classic, life-affirming ?d?g?, “Aft?r ?ll… t?m?rr?w’? ?n?th?r day!”F?rgiv? ??ur??lfForgive yourself and m?v? ?n. Life is rich in l??rning experiences ?nd if ??u h?v?nt made mi?t?k??, youre n?t living! If ??m?thing is unr???lv?d in u?, it? a button ????l? ?th?r may ??n?? ?u?h.So d?nt let it b???m? a button, l?t it g? and m?v? ?n.Your r????n?ibilit? is to d??id? t? deal with th? problem in the b??t w?? you can.10. F?rgiv? Y?ur??lf ?nd L??rn fr?m Your MistakeFacing ??ur mistakes i? hard to d?, but it? important to f?rgiv? ??ur??lf for m???ing u?. You m?d? a mi?t?k?; big d??l, we all m?k? mi?t?k??.M?k? f?rgiv?n??? a part of your daily r?utin?, ?nd when the big blund?r? ??m ? ?l?ng, ?lw??? b? looking f?r w??? you ??n m?k? things b?tt?r in?t??d ?f dw?lling ?n it.Y?ur? not the fir?t ??r??n to m?k? a m?j?r ?rr?r. L??k ?t th? f?ilur?? of th? ????l? ??u l??k u? t?, ?nd youll r??liz? it? ?ll a part of th? ?r?????. Th? gr??t??t ?f th? gr??t? w?? a human t??, and they most lik?l? h?d more than a f?w wh????i?? in their lifetime.Whats most important i? th?t ??u k??? m?ving f?rw?rd. Steven T?b?k ?t In?. shares some wi?? w?rd? ?b?ut how its n?t the f?ilur? that matters.heres the thing. Jazz great Mil?? D?vi? once ??id, Wh?n ??u hit a wr?ng note, it? th? n?xt n?t? that makes it g??d ?r bad.To this d??, I m?rv?l ?t th? wi?d?m b?hind th?t simple notion. If you ju?t add a little ??lf-??nfid?n?? ?nd courage, it? ?ll you need to r???v?r fr?m even th? w?r?t blund?r?, career ?r otherwise.T?k? a d??? br??th and r?fl??t.Wh?t ??n you l??rn from your mistake?If ??u forgot t? do ??m?thing, ??u kn?w ??u need a better w?? t? remind ??ur??lf ?f your t??k?. If ??u did ??m?thing in ??rr??tl?, ??u kn?w ??u n??d t? f?ll?w in?tru?ti?n? better or ??k for h?l? when you need it.M?k? a ???? ?tud? out of ??ur l?g?nd?r? f?ilur? ?nd ?i?k it ???rt t? und?r?t?nd ?x??tl? wh?t went wr?ng and h?w you can ?v?id it in th? futur?. P?tri?i? W?llingt?n at CIO calls thi? ?r????? d?ing a post-mortem, and ?x?l?in? wh? ??u shouldnt ju?t bur? th? body.U?? thi? to understand th? mi?t?k? so th?t ??u d?nt r????t it.A?k wh? fiv? tim?? t? g?t ???t the ??m?t?m? ?nd d?wn t? th? und?rl?ing ??u???.How ??uld you h?v? avoided the ?r?bl?m? M?r? inf?rm?ti?n, wid?r ??rti?i??ti?n, b?tt?r di??i?lin?, tighter controls, b?tt?r judgm?nt, a b?tt?r ??n?? ?f timing?Make ?h?ng?? th?t will ?limin?t? th? ?r?bl?m.You m?? b? tempted t? skip th? ???t-m?rt?m, but it? actually th? m??t v?lu?bl? part ?f ??ur ?x??ri?n??. If ??u learn n?thing fr?m th? mi?t?k?? th?t ??u will inevitably ??mmit, ??u will ?ut ??ur ??r??r in jeopardy.On?? th? mi?t?k? is fixed, the ???n?r ??u ??n forgive yourself ?nd figur? out wh?t went w rong the b?tt?r off youll b?, but theres n? du? d?t?.Dont ru?h back ?nt? th? field with a br?k?n l?g.Ev?r??n? r???v?r? from thing? diff?r?ntl?, and if ??ur? not r??d? t? r??ll? dig in t? your f?ll?, w?it. Su??n H?ld?n-Br?wn at Hum?n Kinetics ?ugg??t? finding a w?? to g?t b??k ?n tr??k, but ?nl? wh?n youre r??d?:The ?th?r thing t? do h?r? is to giv? ??ur??lf tim?.C?n?id?r the w?? t?nni? players r?f??u? b?f?r? a ????nd serve. Th?? bounce th?t b?ll, twirl th?t r??k?t, ?nd take up th?t pose ?? ?ft?n as they n??d t? before th?? unleash another Missile.Sometimes, to g?in tim?, th?? summon a b?ll b??, ??uint at th? ?un, ?r wipe th?ir wristband ??r??? th?ir f?r?h??d. Wh?t?v?r it t?k??Once ??uv? f?rgiv?n yourself, l??rn?d wh?t w?nt wrong, and taken a m?m?nt t? clear ??ur mind, ??ur? ready to get back ?n the horse.N?t only will ??u learn fr?m ??ur mi?t?k??, but you will l??rn h?w t? d??l with ??ur mi?t?k?? b?tt?r and b?tt?r every tim? th?? come ?l?ng.11. Fin?ll?, Move ?nIf it’? n?t a f?t?l (e.g. firing) mistake (m?r? ?n th?t in a bit), thi? too ?h?ll ????.#Odd? ?r?, thing? will g?t b??k to normal ?r?tt? ?ui?kl?. And whil? ??u ??n’t ?r??? what h????n?d, ?r m?k? everyone f?rg?t wh?t ??u did, ?v?r??n? h?? a j?b t? d?.Thi? in?id?nt will g?t lost in the shuffle ?f ?v?r?d?? w?rk. Y?u might h?v? a r?ugh f?w weeks, but at some ??int you’ll n?ti?? th?t thing? have gotten b??k to the routine.Wh?t if it w??n’t ??ur fault?Ev?n if what happened w??n’t ?ntir?l? your ?rr?r, throwing blame around doesn’t m?k? ??u look lik? a gr??t employee, ?ith?r. “It looks lik? ??u’r? n?t taking r????n?ibilit? f?r th? mi?t?k?,” C??mb? says. “If ??u’r? inv?lv?d in the overall ?rr?r, it d??? f?ll ?n ??u. You do w?nt t? ??kn?wl?dg?, ‘I was inv?lv?d with thi?, it w?? partly m? ?rr?r, ?nd I’m d???l? ??rr?.’ You d?n’t necessarily g?, ‘It was thi? guy.’ It’s not going to be g??d f?r your br?nd.W?rr?n B??tt?, f?r instance, could have acknowledged hi? r?l? in th? m??h?m Sun d?? night. “H? could h?v? said, ‘I ?h?uld h?v? ?t????d ?nd said, I think I h?v? th? wr?ng ?nv?l???,’” K?hut ????. “H? ?h?uld h?v? t?k?n a littl? bit ?f ??r??n?l responsibility.”HOW DO I MOVE ON?A?k Yourself: Why Did Thi? Happen?On?? ??u’v? got th? ?r?bl?m in h?nd and h?v? started your ???l?g? tour, ??u h?v? some ????? to think m?r? about why thi? h????n?d.S?m?tim?? mistakes ju?t come ?ut of the blu?, in a m?m?nt ?f inattention ?r poor decision-making.Oth?r tim?? th??’r? ??rt ?f a pattern ?f carelessness, ?r a lack ?f caring ?b?ut th? j?b. So after you’ve ?t?rt?d the damage control ?r?????, it’? time to figure out wh? ??u’r? in thi? ?itu?ti?n in th? fir?t ?l???.Did I m?k? this mistake/perform ???rl? b???u?? I don’t ??r? ?b?ut this job anymore?Did I m?k? this mi?t?k?/??rf?rm ???rl? because I’m ?v?rwh?lm?d b? my j?b, ?nd n??d to make ?dju?tm?nt??Did thi? h????n b???u?? I d?n’t h?v? th? right ?kill ??t, ?r need t? kn?w m?r? about h?w thing? w?rk?If you m?d? t he mi?t?k? ?r got a ???r ??rf?rm?n?? r?vi?w b???u?? ??u’r? ju?t not int? your j?bIt might b? tim? t? g?t ?ut. It’s n?t ideal t? quit ?tr?ight?w??â€"it’? mu?h better t? ?t?rt exploring ??ur ??ti?n? and ????rtuniti?? before you jump ?hi?.But if ??u’r? already performing ?t a l?w?r level b???u?? you’re unh???? or di?int?r??t?d, that’s a m?j?r red flag.If the ??rf?rm?n?? i??u? w?? du? t? ??u b?ing ?v?rwh?lm?d by ??ur jobTalk t? ??ur b???. ASAP.It’? time for a very fr?nk di??u??i?n about ??ur priorities, ??ur tasks, ?nd ??ur r?l?. If things d?n’t ?h?ng? and ??rf?rm?n?? ??ntinu?? to ?lid?, that will be ?n you, ?nd it will make things ?v?n more un??mf?rt?bl?.Y?ur boss h?? a strong int?r??t in m?king sure ??u perform ??ur b??t and ?t?? a ??ti?fi?d ?m?l????, so d?n’t f??r the ??nv?r??ti?n.It might b? ????ibl? to r??tru?tur? your daily t??k?, ?r find new w??? to d? them, ?? th?t ??u’r? able t? d? your j?b ?t th? level you kn?w ??u ??n hit.If the mi?t?k?? ?r? h????ning b??? u?? ??u d?n’t have th? right ?kill ??tY?u need t? figur? ?ut wh?t you’re l??king, ?nd ?tr?t?giz? h?w t? ?ith?r ?) get those skills and kn?wl?dg?; ?r b) ?h?r? r????n?ibiliti?? in a w?? that w?rk? f?r ??u and ??ur t??m.It m?? be that this i? something you ??n h?ndl? ?n your ?wn (f?r ?x?m?l?, getting tr?in?d ?n a particular kind ?f ??ftw?r?, ?r t?king ?nlin? seminars ?b?ut time m?n?g?m?nt).But it m?? well be that ??u n??d help from someone ?l?? in ??ur company, ?nd th?t’? ?k??. If ??u need t? ?it down with someone to understand ?r??????? ?r t??k?, d? it.If ??u n??d h?l? fr?m ??ur boss prioritizing, ??k f?r it. Thi? g??? b??k t? showing th?t you’ve l??rn?d fr?m past mistakes, ?nd ?r? tr?ing t? g?t stronger.What If I’m fir?d A? a Result?S?m? mistakes, well, ??rr? t? ??? th?t ??u ??n’t b?un?? b??k so ???il? and keep ??ur j?b.S?? th?r? w?? a major m?n?? l???, or ??u h????n?d to do ??m?thing that was ??n?id?r?d unf?rgiv??bl? b? th? powers th?t be. If thi? turn? ?ut t? b? th? ??? ?, and you’re l?t g? f?r cause, ??ur ??r??r i? not ?v?r.Remember b?f?r?, wh?n I m?nti?n?d th?t ??u have t? w?rk hard t? ?r?v? ??ur??lf and m?v? on?Th?t’? d?ubl? tru? if ??u’r? fir?dâ€"?nd ??u h?v? t? cope with th?t whil? ?l?? l??king for a new j?b.So it’? n?t ?n easy r??d, but also not im????ibl?.If you l??? ??ur j?b b???u?? ?f ??rf?rm?n?? issues, ??u ?till have ??ti?n?:a. D?n’t ?ut off your j?b searchIt ??n be t?m?ting t? l?? l?w f?r a whil?, but th? longer ??u w?it, ??u’r? delaying the in?vit?bl? moment ??u g?t b??k ?ut th?r?.You also run the ri?k ?f (unintentionally) r?inf?r?ing th? idea th?t ??u’r? un-hir??bl?, th? l?ng?r you ?t?? ?ut ?f the game.A? with a big mi?t?k?, accept th?t it h????n?d, think about h?w ??u ??n d? better, ?nd find w??? t? improve and make ??ur??lf a ?tr?ng?r ??ndid?t?.b. Think h?rd ?b?ut wh?t ??u w?nt to doIs ??ur fi?ld r??ll? a good fit for ??u, after h?w things ?nd?d ?t ??ur last ?l????If it w?? just th? ??m??n? or th? role th?t w?? th? ?r? bl?m, th?t’? a pretty ?tr?ightf?rw?rd fix.But thi? i? a chance t? think about what ??u ?h?uld r??ll? b? d?ing n?xt.c. G?t ??ur references in placeGiven how things ?nd?d, ??u ?r?b?bl? w?n’t want ??ur m??t r???nt b??? to ?ing your praises (especially if ??u’r? not sure wh?t h?/?h? will ???), but ??u ??n ?till g?t f?rm?r ??ll??gu?? fr?m ?th?r jobs, ?r ????l? in your n?tw?rk to ??t ?? r?f?r?n???.d. Spin itY?u lost ??ur j?b, ?nd th?t’? g?ing t? ??m? up wh?n ??m??n? ???? an ?nd d?t? ?n ??ur r??um?, ?r ??k? wh? ??u l?ft ??ur l??t j?b. The im??rt?nt thing i? to turn the narrative int? a m?r? ???itiv? one. “I l?ft m? last ???iti?n b???u?? it w??n’t a good fit. I’m r??d? to m?v? ?n t? the n?xt challenge.”It’? a littl? vague ?nd n?t ideal, but it’s also n?t a brutally h?n??t, “I g?t fir?d. Hir? me please?” K??? in mind th?t th? r????n? ??u were let g? might ??m? up during a b??kgr?und or r?f?r?n?? check, ?? it’? b??t n?t to fl?t-?ut li? ?b?ut ??ur r????n? f?r l??ving. Whil? ??u’r? looking f?r a new j?b, th? old ?n? might h?unt ??u ??m?wh?t.But ?g?in, it’? im??rt?nt t? ??kn?wl?dg?, ?????t, ?nd move on with your lif?.Everyone l?v?? a good comeback story, ?nd if ??u w?rk h?rd t? b? b?tt?r than your ???t mistakes, ??u ??n ?ull yourself u? and out ?f th? muck.You can ?urviv?, you will ?urviv?, and you’ll w?lk away with ??m? v?r? hard-won in?ight ?b?ut yourself ?nd ??ur ??r??r.MISTAKES MAY BE ADVANTAGEOUS; HERE’S A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE“W? learn from f?ilur?, n?t from ?u?????!” Br?m St?k?r, Dr??ul?A?k a hundr?d ????l? you m??t this w??k what in?t?n??? ??urr?d th?ir bigg??t gr?wth in life (any dimension ?f it) and I’ll w?g?r m??t ?f th??? ?t?ri?? will f?ll und?r the umbrella ?f “mi?t?k??.”And th? bigg?r th? flub, ??u’ll find, the m?r? l??rning (and benefit) they ?r?b?bl? received in th? l?ng-t?rm.When we think ?f success, our mind? naturally z?r? in on the d??ir?d ?ut??m?. Success i? th? ultim?t? goal, th? end ?r?du?t, the final r?? ult w? w?nt?d all along.Whil? ?u?????full? ?tt?ining an individu?l ?ut??m? i? gr?tif?ing, there’s th? wh?l? process fr?m d??ir? t? r??ult th?t w? t?nd to gl??? ?v?r, not t? mention the bigger ??r????tiv? w? g?t ?n wh?t’? ????ibl? to desire (?nd ??hi?v?).Mistakes ?r? an ????nti?l part of any tr?n?f?rm?ti?n.N?t only d? th?? underscore the wh?l? f?llibl? hum?nit? w?’r? w?rking with, but th?? bu?t ???n th? entire ?r????? ?f tr?n?f?rm?ti?n, h?l?ing us br??k through int? d????r dim?n?i?n? ?f commitment whil? r?dir??ting u? toward more constructive ??thw???.Mi?t?k?? m?v? us t? l??rn“Good judgment ??m?? from ?x??ri?n??, and experience ??m?? from b?d judgm?nt”. Rit? M?? Brown, Alm? M?t?rSure, f?ilur? hurts, but wh?n th? ?ting w??r? ?ff, w? find ?ur??lv?? more ???n t? th? f??db??k ?f th? ?x??ri?n?? (h?n?? th? ???ing, “Th?r? i? n? f?ilur?, ?nl? feedback.”)Mi?t?k?? kn??k u? ?ff ?ur rigid ?xi?, fr??ing u? fr?m the d?lu?i?n th?t th? w?? w?r? d?ing it w?? th? b??t w??, let ?l?n? th? only w??. Alth?ugh we of course kn?w thi? int?ll??tu?ll?, mi?t?k?? help us ?b??rb thi? truth v?r? ?ui?kl?.W? l?nd in a place of t???h?bilit?, a ?l??? in which we’re m?r? receptive t? n?w influ?n??? ?nd ??r????tiv??. Call it n?????it? ?r humble ?i?.M??b? w?’v? b??n ?tu?k in a fitness r?utin? that served u? w?ll in ?ur 30’? ?nd 40’s that d???n’t m??t ?ur needs in later d???d??, and it t??k ?n injur? t? fin?ll? r??liz? it.M??b? we thought after fiv? ???r? ?f being gluten fr?? th?t ??ting a stack of pancakes wouldn’t b? a big d??l for ?ur IBS. Th? f??db??k m?k?? a grand ?t?t?m?nt w? w?n’t soon f?rg?t.After th? in?vit?bl? regret, th? ??int h?r? is that w? b???m? willing t? learn, willing t? d? it a diff?r?nt w??, willing t? build r???lv?. W?’r? motivated to ?v?id injury. W?’r? ??mmitt?d t? giv? up f??d? ?r ?tr????r? that d?n’t serve us.Our br?in? th?m??lv?? ?r? even ?u??r?h?rging these ?ff?rt?, operating ?t h?ight?n?d sensitivity.R????r?h shows we have a uni?u? f?rm ?f memory kn?wn as error memory, which h?l?? u? perform m?t?r tasks diff?r?ntl?.Lik?wi??, ??ri?u? f??d r???ti?n? ??n r??ult in instinctual aversion. Far from m?r? avoidance learning, w? ??n t?k? on a mind-??t that makes the wh?l? blund?r feel lik? a ???itiv? m?v? wh?n w? ?ut it in ??nt?xt ?r ??? h?w we ??n use the inf?rm?ti?n t? move our h??lth forward.A saying I’v? heard ?ttribut?d to a f?w people is “I n?v?r lose. I ?ith?r win ?r l??rn.” M?k? thi? ??ur m?ntr?, and b? willing t? always ??k what the lesson is.Mi?t?k?? give ri?? to h??lth? ??lf-??m????i?nIt’s a truth th?t’? unf?rtun?t?l? l??t on t?? many ????l?.In ??ntr??t to th? stereotypical drill ??rg??nt m?d?l ?f continual butt kicking, showing ourselves self-compassion i? a key m?tiv?t?r t? keep ?r?gr???ing toward ?ur g??l?.Research ??nfirm? th?t ??m????i?n?t? ?????t?n?? of ?ur ?wn mi?t?k?? enhances ?ur ?nthu?i??m and determination to m?v? f?rw?rd t?w?rd ?ur g??l?.A junk food bing? won’t, in f??t, h?l? ??u im?r?v? ?? ur h??lth ?r l??? w?ight. But ?tr???ing ?b?ut or ?bu?ing ??ur??lf over it w?n’t ?ith?r.U?? the chance to detach fr?m th? choices, ?ff?r up ??m????i?n, ?nd take a n?n-judgm?nt?l but di???rning l??k at what set the ?h?in in m?ti?n ?nd what th? real effect was. (It ?r?b?bl? w??n’t as ?nj???bl? as you thought wh?n it w?? ?ll ??id and d?n?.)Wh?t did ??u n??d th?t ??u w?r?n’t getting?What r???rv?? (of ??ti?n??, ?f ??lf-??r?, ?f sleep/rest, ?f solitude, ?f ??tivit?) w?r? running l?w?H?w can ??u t?k? b?tt?r care of ??ur??lf n?xt tim??A bit of kindn??? g??? a long w?? in m?king th? best of a ?itu?ti?n ?nd ???l?ing it f?r ??ur benefit in th? futur?.Mi?t?k?? fr?? u? from ??b?t?ging f??r? ?nd help u? take m?r? positive ri?k?It’s ?m?zing th? number f??r ??n do ?n ?ur h??lth ?ff?rt?.When w? f??r a certain ?ut??m? (?.g. r?g?ining the w?ight, injuring ourselves, n?t tr?ining ?d??u?t?l? for a r???, coming in l??t with ??m?thing, doing ?n?thing w? f?lt pressured t? take ?n, ?t?.), w? giv? it ?n?rg? and ?tt?nti?n.Our mind ?t tim?? ??n ?v?n compulsively g?t w?und ?r?und it. W? b???m? ?? entranced with tr?ing desperately t? tr??d th? ?dg? th?t w? ?nd u? f?lling right in.And th?n it’s done.H?ving hit up against th? thing w? h?v? f??r?d the m??t, there’s a ??rt?in r?li?f.Th? bigg??t b?g?? isn’t trying to break d?wn the ????hi? door. It’? h?r? ?n th? ??u?h ?itting n?xt to u?. And suddenly, it d???n’t ???m like such a ??t??tr??h? to liv? with. N?t our first choice, but n?t th? complete di???t?r w? stressed ?? mu?h ?b?ut averting.There’s a certain f??rl???n??? that comes with “f?ilur?”â€"?? in multi?l? f?ilur??, tim? ?nd tim? and time again. It’s ?n? w?? elite ?thl?t?? ??tu?ll? build r??ili?n?? ?nd h?n? di??i?lin?. Because th? more fearless w? are, the less inhibited w? are, ?nd this ???n? u? m?j?r ????ibiliti??.The cliché (but ?till in?ightful) ?u??ti?n g???, “What w?uld ??u attempt if you kn?w you ??uldn’t f?il?” A b?tt?r v?r?i?n might b?, “What w?u ld ??u attempt if you r??liz?d th?t f?ilur? didn’t matter ?nd wouldn’t be th? last word?”B???u?? if w?’r? n?t m?king mi?t?k??, w?’r? n?t taking big ?n?ugh ri?k?…Mistakes r?b??t ?ur m?tiv?ti?nIt might ???m counterintuitive. What knocks us ?n ?ur duff i? wh?t’? going t? h?l? us win th? r????With a littl? r??ili?n??, yes. W? admit we h?v?n’t been living u? t? ?ur h??lth? id??l?, and it’? t?k?n a t?ll.Ev?n wh?n we’ve b??n ?hugging ?l?ng in the u?u?l r?utin?, it’s ???? t? g?t ??m?l???nt, easy to ?h??k ?ut.We might h?v? discipline t? k??? g?ing with whatever healthy b?h?vi?ur? w?’v? ?ut into ?l???, but we ??n drift ?w?? fr?m th? ??r? of wh?t w?’r? doing.Hitting a major ?n?g ?h?ng?? that.Suddenly, we’re n?t ???r?ting on ?ut??il?t anymore. We h?v? to think ?n?? again ?b?ut what w?’r? doing. We have t? b? ??luti?n-mind?d, and t? d? th?t w? reinvest.If w? find ?ur??lv?? in the midst of a ??ni? ?tt??k b???u?? w?’v? l?t ?ur ?tr??? l?v?l? skyrocket, if we take a ? ?ill ?n the tr??dmill b???u?? we’re overtired from staying u? l?t? t?? m?n? night?, if w? realize ?ur w?i?tlin? h?? ?r??t u? because w?’r? tr?ing to ??t th? way we did a decade ?g? wh?n hormonal r??lit? w?? diff?r?nt, w?’r? going to h?v? t? g?t ?r??tiv? ?nd commit.Mi?t?k?? m?v? u? fr?m ?n improvement mind-set t? ?n ?x??n?i?n mind-setThi? is big. And m??b? th? point ????l? most ??mm?nl? miss.Mi?t?k?? m?v? us ?ut of the small vi?w ?f ?u????? as h?ning a ?kill t? (?u?????d) ??rf??ti?n ?nd into ?n ?nl?rging perspective th?t embraces success ?? living int? ?n??m????ing ??tu?liz?ti?n and fulfilment. T? m?v? ?n fr?m them, we vi?w mi?t?k?? against the l?rg?r b??kdr?? ?f the vi?i?n we h?v? for our lives.D?ing ?? h?l?? u? see th?m in right ?r???rti?n (i.e. n?t a big d??l in the gr?nd ??h?m?). We surrender the l???, in other words, t? re-affirm th? vi?i?n ?nd g?th?r ?ur??lv?? t? k??? pushing f?rw?rd.Su????? ??n be bench ?r???ing a ??rti?ul?r ?m?unt, but th?t’? a ?itu?ti?n?l, limited vi ?w. Th?r?’? absolutely nothing wrong with a ??rf?rm?n?? g??l, but it f??u??? ?n a ?kill, not a lif?.Most ?f u? want a ?u?????ful lif?.Th?t m??n? n?t ju?t im?r?ving wh?t ?lr??d? ?xi?t?, wh?t we’re ?lr??d? ???r?ting ?ut ?f. Mi?t?k?? keep u? nimbl? ?nd ?r??tiv?, ???n to a l?rg?r ?i?tur?, f??u??d ?n expansion r?th?r than ??rf??ti?n.Th?? might di?????int us in the m?m?nt but ultimately r?mind u? ?f th? ?v?r?r?hing d??ign w?’r? aiming for.Mi?t?k?? r?mind us that it’? ?ll a gr?nd ?x??rim?ntFinally, mi?t?k?? ?blig? u? to remember that all of our ?ff?rt?, wh?t?v?r they come to or d?n’t ??m? t?, are h?w w? m??t th? game ?f life ???h d??.Th? m?r? ????i?n?t?l? w? ?l??, th? more w? get ?ut ?f it. But th?t inv?ri?bl? m??n? more, not fewer, ??r?w-u?? ?nd ?v?n ??m? ?rr?r? of ??l????l proportion.Mi?t?k?? k??? u? fl?xibl? and attentive. Eng?g?d with life r?th?r th?n with r?utin?. And which life w?uld you r?th?r h?v??“Fr??d?m i? n?t w?rth having if it d??? not in?lud? th? fr??d?m t? m?k? m i?t?k??”. M?h?tm? G?ndhi